Most parents probably think that a biological child is the most important. They feel happy when they have children of their own. Because of this adopted children feel less important in the family and the situation makes them unhappy.How do you feel when knowing that you are just an adopted child - not the biological child? These conditions are experienced by many children after they have grown up they eventually find out that they are not the biological child of the two parents who have raised them.
Surely knowing that they are only adopted children is very painful. It really hurts. So as parents what actions would you take after the children you have raised know the actual condition?
Why do spouses have to adopt a child? Spouses sometimes have difficulty having children until they finally decided to raise a child as their heart entertainer. But parents sometimes do not realize that raising a child will become a problem later on if the child knows that they are only adopted children.
When parents decide to adopt children, they should be able to keep it secret by moving to a new house or moving to another city. It's very important to keep the adopted child's feelings. I know a friend of mine who is in fact an adopted child. He told me he was deeply hurt when he found out he was only an adopted child. His foster parents kept it secret but neighbors let the cat out of the bag. He overheard a conversation that mentioned him being an adopted child. He was not brave enough to ask his parents.
In my opinion, adopted child or biological child is not a problem. Adopted child who has grown up since he or she was a baby is just like a child of their own. He will have the nature of people who raised him. What's the use of having a biological child, but we never take care of and raise them?
Parents who have adopted children since they were babies have to make sure the children do not know this or else you will break their heart. This is one of the problems of adopting children when they were still babies. If you adopt a child when he or she is already grown up, that will be fine since they already know that they will be adopted.